Archive for the ‘Encouragement’ category

What’s been going on?

October 30th, 2011

20111030-173808.jpgThere’s something very interesting about life being a parent…it seems like every one of your thoughts winds up being interrupted. If it isn’t a question from a sweet darling daughter, it’s my wife talking about what the next need of growing children happens to be (who knew 3 year olds could grow out of shoes so fast) or it’s my own worries about the future or it’s the demand of sleep at the last moments of the day.

My wife and I are always talking about things we want to do, to accomplish. Being the youngest, we find it easy to measure our worth by how much we do. I remember many years of seeing an older sibling accomplish something and how one day I’d do the same or better. Somehow they kept doing things I also wanted to do, and I kept having to replace my unfinished goal with the next.

And while in the “busyness” of raising two beautiful little girls, managing a home and job, we find ourselves at odds with the desire to accomplish and finish things. Our greatest fear is to be known as people who don’t follow through.

A friend of mine told me he didn’t know of any couple that set more goals than me and my wife. That would almost be a complement except for the rest of the statement that didn’t come out, “and achieve those goals.”

So my wife and I have been talking a lot about how we need to learn to simply “be” who we are. Right now I’m not in a full time ministry, so we can afford to not be at every church function. I have a relatively easy work schedule, so I can usually be home with my wife and girls each night and weekend.

Do we want to do more? Of course, because God made us that way. We want to lead and help others accomplish great things for their savior. I want to be a full time pastor again and spend my time helping people in need. Emily wants to be part of a deeply theological discussion group with young women who are poised to be married or who are just starting their careers. But for now, we are trusting that God has more in store for us when the time is right.

So, what’s been going on? Not much – just staying busy raising little girls to love God, to do our best in the circle of friends around us, and do my best at work so I can continue to provide for my family. That seems to be enough for now!

Marriage…

July 6th, 2011

Today, I was privileged to finish up Joni Eareckson Tada’s book, “A Place of Healing.”  It is an amazing book, that I hope all of you will take advantage of.  While checking out her website, I saw this recent post.  I hope you enjoy it (and watch the video).

http://www.joniandfriends.org/blog/loves-last-calling/

God’s Discipline

July 3rd, 2011

Our family has started setting aside Sundays as family fun days. We go to worship services at our church on Saturday afternoons, so we can choose what to do on our day of rest. This is the first time in our marriage that we have not had Sunday morning duties – either preaching, teaching or simply serving the body.

Today’s fun ended, however, when our eldest decided to be stubborn and disobey mommy and daddy. Now that she is 3, some of the previous means of discipline have lost their effectiveness, so we decided to remove a privilege. Because she wasn’t obedient, she would not be able to go to the pool.

While the house is quiet now (my wife and other daughter are happily at the pool), I’m reminded of how amazing our Father in heaven is. And, I wonder, how often he removes a privilege from us while he disciplines us.

I know in my own life, there have been many things that I didn’t quite get – much worse than a 3 year old. And, now, it makes me wonder what I’ve missed out on. What privilege did I not get to do while my father was shaping me and forming me into something better?

Discipline is hard – especially for parents in this world. But, our Father in heaven does it all the time with the best intentions and most amazing compassion. I hope my wife and I learn just a little bit of how he parents us in our daily parenting of our kids.

And, I’m going to spend a little more time today reflecting on the times that I, myself, disobeyed the Father and lost out on something – maybe I’ll also discover I actually learned some valuable lessons. And, I’ll pray that our daughter learns her lessons, too – without to many privileges lost.

Extending the family through adoption

June 23rd, 2011

A friend of ours recently shared this link about her sister’s family.  Take a look and see how blending biological and adoptive children is possible – and even how adopting a group of siblings is possible.  And, not just possible, but wonderful!

http://www.myfoxhouston.com/dpp/news/finding_family/110623-adopting-siblings

 

For every mamma out there losing sleep, this is for you!

February 13th, 2011

This is a re-post from Proverbs 31 Ministries – could not help but pass it along as I sit here @ 11:30pm (yes, that is LATE for  ME!) with “stuff” on my mind.  God is good and bigger than all my anxious toil.  AMEN!!!! I think I will go to bed now, sweet dreams everyone!

Encouragement for Today From Proverbs 31 Ministries

Daily Devotions for Women
February 11, 2011
Sweet Dreams

Karen Ehman

“It is in vain that you rise up early and go late to rest, eating the bread of anxious toil; for he gives to his beloved sleep.”
Psalm 127:2 (ESV)

I restlessly rolled over and squinted sleepily trying to focus my eyes on the bright blue digits still taunting me in the night. The alarm clock on my dresser flashed the awful news:

3:18 AM. Ughhhh!

I had crawled into bed nearly four hours earlier, eager to rejuvenate my body with a sound night’s sleep. My ever-full schedule as a wife, mother, daughter, volunteer, neighbor, friend and part-time work-at-home woman had me worn and weary. Not only was my body tired, but my brain raced as well.

Random thoughts strung together like an annoying necklace of woes: Would my latest project be done in time? Is my adult daughter doing okay in her new job and living situation? Is my elderly mom going to slip and fall on the ice in this nasty winter weather? Did I offend my friend when she’d asked for my honest opinion about her child-rearing decision? Are my sons making wise choices when it comes to their peer groups? Would I gain back the twenty pounds I’d just lost…..for the third time?

And then…the dreaded “what ifs.” What if the young mom in my Bible study discovers her husband is having an affair just as she suspects? What if my high school son with special needs doesn’t do well on his ACT exam next year? What if my friends lose their home to foreclosure? What if my sister-in-law’s ex-husband threatens her again…or worse?

And so I tossed and turned; and tried to no avail to induce sweet slumber that would whisk me away from all of my fears, both real and imagined.

Finally giving up, I dragged my flannel-clad self into the kitchen to heat some boiling water in my kettle and steep a bag of chamomile tea. I hoped it might do the trick.

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To fight or not to fight…that is the question (My apologies to Shakespeare)

December 27th, 2010

2 Chronicles 20:17 “You will not need to fight in this battle. Stand firm, hold your position, and see the salvation of the Lord on your behalf, O Judah and Jerusalem. Do not be afraid and do not be dismayed. Tomorrow go out against them, and the Lord will be with you.”

It is 11:30 at night. The house is quiet and slightly aglow with Christmas lights. It is WAY past my bed time!  So what keeps me up this late?  First, it was restlessness in my legs (so I thought) and the cure was some Advil and an ABC family movie (again, so I thought).  After the movie I was glancing around Facebook (yes I am addicted and need help!) and as I was looking at some pictures I had posted of my girls playing the snow I became overwhelmed at God’s goodness and blessing in my life. Not simply because I have two amazing daughters, a husband (and incredible father) who cherishes me and them, but because I have a Savior who loves me more than I love my husband and daughters, and more than they love me… how mind boggling is THAT! 

As I pondered all this I was brought to tears that I have lost sight of HIM during this season.  It’s as if along with the lights, the glitter, the glow and the gatherings of the season my brain was hijacked into “mission mode” as I call it and the mission was …GETTING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS!!!!

How sad is that.  I know it is not Jesus’ actual birthday on December 25th (sorry if I just burst anyone’s bubble) yet this is a special time, not the ONLY time, to reflect on our Savior’s birth and all that it meant.  This has brought me to 2 Chronicles 20:17, a verse that stops me in my tracks.  This verse describes a paricular battle with an odd strategy – prepare to fight but let someone else do the actual fighting. It says “stand firm, hold your position and see the salvation of the Lord on your behalf.”

JINGLE BELLS!  In the quiet of this night, it dawned on me how God calls us to prepare for battle but reminds us it is not up to us to FIGHT every battle.  Sometimes God calls us to “see the salvation of the Lord on [our] behalf” or as I like to think of it, “watch God do HIS thing!”

I don’t know about you but so much of my time, I am realizing, is wasted on fighting battles God has not asked me to fight – battles too numerous to name so I won’t even try. It is no wonder I feel drained, complacent, and detached – I am squandering my energy fighting battles that are not mine to fight instead of simply standing firm and holding my position of faith and trust in God.

This season, I have been choosing to fight the battle of checking off my holiday list and it’s not a battle God has called me to fight.  During the special time of year, as with most of our year, God is asking me to focus on understanding more about him and how I can alter my life to be filled more by him, but the chaos once again distracted me.

Don’t think though that God has trained us to sit on the sidelines and watch while he does the work in all the battles of life.  OH NO, there are battles out there for us to take on (some hand-to-hand combat, no doubt).  But, I would dare say that all too often we get “trigger happy” and leap right into a battle without asking God if it is one HE has called us to fight.

My prayer is that you will seek God in the daily challenges of life, whether mundain or monumental. Maybe He is asking you to jump in there with both hands or maybe He wants you prepare for a battle but trust Him enough to rest in Him and watch Him win the battle and glorify Himself in your life.

Our 3rd Christmas

December 20th, 2010

This will be our third Christmas as parents.  As we gear up for the wonder and amazing that is the holiday, my wife and I have realized just how hectic life is with children.

Life before kids was simpler.  Now, we are faced with questions and challenges at every turn.  There are economic fears, parenting skills fears, even fears about whether or not the kids will wake up in the middle of the night and leave us exhausted in the morning.  Being a parent is the most draining and exhausting thing I’ve ever done.

But, before you say I’m a grinch, let me also share the other truth.  Our children are amazing, and we couldn’t imagine life without them.  I recently told my wife that in the midst of the craziness of life, even the times when my own trust in God is wavering, some of the truest moments are the times I look into my children’s faces and see their smiles.  Some of the most spiritual moments come when our little girls answer the question of “Who loves you?” with “Jesus loves me!”  (Of course, they also proceed to repeated sing the accompanying “Jesus Loves Me” song!)

I never expected life to be so hard and have so many twists and turns.  And, equally so, I never expected my little girls to be so important in keeping me grounded and trusting in my God!  Thank you, Lord, for bringing these little girls into our lives!

Being Thankful

November 25th, 2010

Today is the day we Americans have set aside to be thankful. But, to be thankful, you must have something to be thankful to. We all have tons to be thankful for, but we don’t always direct it toward something or someone. It’s fashionable to say “I’m thankful,” but not always fashionable to point out to whom you are thankful.

So let me declare right now, that I am thankful to God – the God of the Bible, the God of Israel, Yahweh, Jehovah, the Christ Jesus who is the Son of God and is God himself.

Why make such a public and loud statement? Paul says it well in Romans 1:16:
For I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God that brings salvation to everyone who believes: first to the Jew, then to the Gentile.

I am very thankful for this good news – this gospel! And because of this hope, there are other things that I give thanks for today as well:

  • My wonderful wife, Emily, who supports me with such unconditional love, it amazes me daily.
  • My darling little girls, who clearly are little Rotens through and through!
  • Family and friends that stand by you, encourage you and challenge you in so many ways.
  • God’s provision through a job and manageable expenses.
  • A city to live in that offers such variety, excursions and a healthy environment to raise our little girls.
  • Technology – not only because it is fun (ipods, netflix on wii, imacs, android phones, and so much more), but because it allows us to communicate with people all around the world, sharing our lives with others.
  • A passion for adoption – and a desire to share that passion with as many as will listen so that no little boy or girl will have to live life without the blessing of a caring and nurturing set of parents.
  • And much more (things that you’re probably horrified that I forgot to list!)

Ephesians 5:20 – “always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

ASK ME

November 9th, 2010

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1 Kings 3:9 “So give your servant a discerning heart to govern your people and to distinguish between right and wrong. For who is able to govern this great people of yours?”

I know it has been a while since I actually blogged but I’m on a “scheduling” kick and set aside some time to ponder and write out what God has been speaking to me lately.  Going to be honest, it has been a WILD few weeks, and I still feel like my head is spinning (hence the feeble human attempt at control by trying to “schedule” my time with 2 pre-schoolers, I’ll keep you posted on how long THAT last!).  As I was looking back on passages I had read one came to mind that I hadn’t even marked, 1 Kings 3:9.

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Lead Me by Sanctus Real

October 15th, 2010

Once in a while, there’s a song that just stirs our hearts.  Sometimes it’s for love, God, or just simply living life.  Here’s a song that we’re hoping helps you hear our heart for our families.  We hope you enjoy!  Leave a comment about how much you want God to lead you in your family and life.